I Hate My Family Story Experience. I hate my family. I hate everything about them. I believe 9. 5 of my life problems stem from them. They are the reason everything is wrong in my life. They are two faced, gossiping, judgemental, narrow minded pieces of, who deserve the worst. My Step Cousins Pretend' title='My Step Cousins Pretend' />I dont know what I did to deserve this family. The sad thing is that they actually believe they are a good family. And do you know why they believe this Because they put on a sherade No, my parents didnt get a divorce, and no one in my family is a hardcore drug addict and no, i didnt get sexually abused although I did get hit as a child. But my family likes to believe they are perfect, that they are the brady bunch. But they are the opposite ALL THEY CARE ABOUT IS LOOKING PERFECT. They all put on a sherade for eachother and act like they are this good fuckign family. All they care about is looking good in our community because we come from a stupid piece of culture where if life is eating up your insides you still have to smile and act like your a successful, happy teddybear that loves everyoneBehind this warm sherade lies a family full of hypocritical, backstabbing, unworthy scumbags and I hope to god I break away from this hellhole one day and never see the face of any one of these parasites again. It makes me sick I come from the same gene pool as them. They dont accept me for who I am. They judge me on everything. Just because im not a loud, social, obnoxious attention seeking trail of slime like my sister. Im quiet and they use that against me and make fun of me, calling me a depressed loser. I have been severly depressed for quite some time and no one in this family takes it seriously. They have a hard time believing that any one can be unhappy in our BRADY BUNCH LA DEE DA FAMILY Im sick and tired of no one taking me seriously because im not a prisoner of war. I have confided in my sisters back when I was naive enough to trust them and when we would get into fights they would use it against me, totally shattering my self esteem. I called my brother who was living in the states at the time and told him about how depressed I was feeling and truley confided and him, I told him everything. A few months later when he returns home, he tells them everything i told them and they just used it against me some more I asked him why and he makes fun of me for it telling me to stop being such a baby. I went to the doctor and she prescribed me anti depressants. I didnt tell my mom or trust her at first, but I was unsure of taking them, so once again, like a fool, i decided to confide in my mom and brother and ask them what they think of me taking them. And once again, they didnt take me seriously, they told me my problems were stupid and that im depressed for no reason. They told me anti depressants werent the problem and that i just had to suck it up and stop being weak. As a kid, my sisters insulted me on how i look all the time. Now i have extreme social anxiety and hate the way I look. My mom gets frustrated with me when I tell her how i feel. This family is a fuckign curse. My sister was always trying to compete with me as a kid, and always tried to destroy my self esteem. She always tells people we look alike like shes proud, yet destroyed my self esteem as a kid and constantly calls me ugly What type of game is that to play on some one My mother completely disregards how Im feeling. All she cares about is how i act around guests and how she doesnt want me to embarrass her around company. When Im depressed she says, dont embarrass me around now, dont be all pissy now. One of my cousins, who our family hates came down from germany for a visit around the time of my birthday. My sister, brother and a few people decided to take me out for my birthday and my other sister who i have no relationship with what so ever decided to hang out with our evil cousin instead of coming to my birthday. Now i was perfectly fine with her not coming to my birthday celebration seeing as how we hate eachother. So my brother and sister get mad at her for not coming to my birthday. Or at least that was there fuckign bullshit excuse for it. They really didnt give a that she didnt come to my birthday, they were just mad because they didnt want her hanging out with the evil cousin in the first place. And they have the decency to use my birthday as an excuse. So when we had the actual birthday celebration at my house, it was a total mess and there selfish problems ruined it. Every one was in a pissy mood all cause my sister decided not to come to my birthday, when I didnt give a  about it in the first place. They were mad because of their own selfish reasons and used me as an excuse. ALTERNATES/s615b/yourlife-16-03-10-rebecca-and-luke-horwood-pic-dm-833053340.jpg' alt='My Step Cousins Pretend' title='My Step Cousins Pretend' />My birthday ended up being a total awkward piece of. When my sisters engagement party was going on at our house, I didnt want to partake in it. And my mom storms into my room and insists I come downstairs. I say I dont want to. She says, if you dont come downstairs, dont ever call me mother again and things of that nature. So naturally, I had to come downstairs, act like everything was okay and smile. Buy Step2 Up Down Roller Coaster Ride On RideOn Toys Amazon. FREE DELIVERY possible on eligible purchases. But when it was my birthday, every one had a right to act as uncomfortable as they felt. Completely unfair. When my mom gets mad at one of my brothers and sisters, she doesnt DARE explode at them, she reasons and bargains with them. Hello Fiona, my first time really was two years ago I had been already and alone wearing girly clothes, enjoying the thrill of wearing panties, stockings, heels. The Kissing Cousins trope as used in popular culture. Also known as cousincest, romanticsexual relationships between cousins meaning, generally, first. But she takes it all out on me. Im her punching bag. She still hits me when shes angry, but not them. I am really fed up with our family, and they always guilt trip me into thinking i have things so easy. They dont see their faults. These negative feelings dont come from no where. Being severely depressed doesnt come from no where. Yet they think I make everything up. I hate my life, and my family is a disease. The Long Term Effects of Bullying. You know how jokes are often funny because they are based in an ugly truth I had a new realization of that phenomena while watching Bill Mahers new stand up comedy special The Decider on HBO the other night. Bill was talking about various recent sexual abuse scandals and was comparing the complaints made against Michael Jackson to complaints made against various Catholic priests with the aim of suggesting that what Michael allegedly did to his victims was gentle compared to the treatment received by victims of the priests. Seemingly out of nowhere, he started talking about a time when he was a child and was rather viciously beaten up during an incident of playground bullying. Guard System Manager 11.8.1. As part of his punchline, he commented that he would have gladly subjected himself to the worst abuse Michael has been accused of perpetrating rather than having to endure that single beating. The Omegle Game Rules more. The comment resonated with me, probably because like Bill, I too was bullied as a kid, and also found the experience to be pretty ugly. I dont think Id ever choose to subject myself to Michaels ministrations in order to have escaped my own bullying experiences you gotta have standards in life, but I know I would have given a lot to have been able to stop them from happening. The bullying I was subjected to did not occur on the playground, but rather on the school bus. I can vividly recall days when I would have to launch myself out of the school bus door and run as fast as I could up the hill to the shelter of my house. A group of older neighborhood boys would be after me for reasons that were never entirely clear. I was younger, more sensitive, certainly more vulnerable and not talented at fist fighting. Most days Id make it home safely, but some days Id end up belly up on the grass trying to fend off blows and kicks while a ring of kids jeered and cheered that days aggressor. A blow to the head and youd see stars like in the cartoons. Im 4. 0 years old now its been something like 3. Still, the experience has not left me, it sucked so much. I dont think about it much these days, but I know that having lived through those experiences has shaped me as an adult, and not for the better. The experience of getting your face smashed in by bullies or taunted by them, or pushed, or shoved, or excluded, etc. In this spirit, I offer my self disclosure and hijack Bills as seed for discussion. There are lots of programs designed to help schools and other institutions prevent bullying. Its kind of a hot topic these days in a small sort of way. Hopefully the things that researchers have and will come up will help limit the scope of the problem in the future. However, Im quite confident that it will never go away entirely. It seems to me that bullying is just one of those things that are just a part of human nature. Something that can be suppressed but not eliminated. Where I want to go with this essay is not to talk about how to make bullying stop, but rather, to explore the sorts of damage bullies do to their victims, and to discuss a few paths through which some of that damage can be, at least in part, undone. Bullying is Abuse. Heres a few statements to get us started 1 Bullying is a form of abuse, and 2 Bullying is a narcissistic sort of act. In making the first statement here, I mean to say that both bullying and traditional forms of abuse are selfish andor sadistic, destructive, and often violent acts perpetrated upon victims who do not in any way, shape or form deserve to be treated in that manner. In making the second statement Im suggesting that ring leader bullies those who organize bullying are behaving as though the emotional and physical health of their victims is not important or is at least less important than their own desire for the thrill of aggression and dominance. Narcissists treat other people as though they were objects either to be used, or discarded, and the bully both uses his victim for purposes of self gratification and aggrandizement and then discards him. Now, children are fairly narcissistic by their very nature. Children are not born appreciating that other people are actually just like they are with their own needs and independent rights. A long period of development must occur before children grasp that the other people around them have needs and interests just like they do and need to be accommodated and accorded respect. The golden rule of treating others as you would yourself like to be treated makes no sense to a young child who has not yet matured to the point where this basic appreciation of the individuality of every person has been grasped. Instead, children need to be held in line with what amount to incentives and sometimes punishments for acting as though other people matter. So by saying that bullying is a narcissistic action, Im not at all saying that all bullies are narcissists. Adult bullies who have not outgrown their childhood narcissism probably do qualify, but little kids are just going to be that way. This is why Im not terribly optimistic that we can solve the problem of bullying in our time. Bullying Causes Long Term Emotional Damage. The experience of being bullied can end up causing lasting damage to victims. Driver Downloader Key. This is both self evident, and also supported by an increasing body of research. It is not necessary to be physically harmed in order to suffer lasting harm. Words and gestures are quite enough. In fact, the old saying, Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never harm me is more or less exactly backwards. For the most part, physical damage sustained in a fist fight heals readily, especially damage that is sustained during the resilient childhood years. What is far more difficult to mend is the primary wound that bullying victims suffer which is damage to their self concepts to their identities. Bullying is an attempt to instill fear and self loathing. Being the repetitive target of bullying damages your ability to view yourself as a desirable, capable and effective individual. There are two ugly outcomes that stem from learning to view yourself as a less than desirable, incapable individual. The first ugly outcome is that it becomes more likely that you will become increasingly susceptible to becoming depressed andor angry andor bitter. Being bullied teaches you that you are undesirable, that you are not safe in the world, and when it is dished out by forces that are physically superior to yourself that you are relatively powerless to defend yourself. When you are forced, again and again, to contemplate your relative lack of control over the bullying process, you are being set up for Learned Helplessness e. At the same time, you may be learning that you are helpless and hopeless, you are also learning how you are seen by bullies, which is to say, you are learning that you are seen by others as weak, pathetic, and a loser. And, by virtue of the way that identity tends to work, you are being set up to believe that these things the bullies are saying about you are true. It would be great if the average person was possessed of unshakable self confidence, but this just isnt how identity works. Identity is a social process. Other people contribute to it. Particularly when people are young and have not yet survived a few of lifes trials, it is difficult for people to know who they are and what they are made of.